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Common fears of divorce and how to get through them

Fear is the most common psychological reaction to divorce. If you’re facing an impending divorce in Indiana, your psyche is most likely awash with a jumble of negative emotions. Realize that you’re not alone and can overcome feelings associated with divorce.

The most common fears surrounding an impending divorce

Fears involving divorce can take many forms. The four most common ones are:

  • Worrying about how your children will suffer
  • The loss of financial security, including decreased income
  • Losing your identity
  • Fearing the future and starting over

If you have children, your fears will likely escalate if you are involved in a high-conflict divorce. You may fret that they will side with the other parent or that you may have difficulty working out a cooperative parenting agreement. High conflict can lead to children having psychological issues, too. Often intertwined is the fear of having fewer financial assets and not being able to provide for your children like you used to. Your identity as part of a nuclear family will vanish, replaced by the uncertainty of your role in life and as a parent. Although you may realize that divorce is the best solution for your troubles, you may also focus on wondering whether you’ll ever be happy again or find a life partner. Your mental health can suffer.

Getting past your fears of divorce

Drafting an equitable divorce agreement that includes balanced child custody and visitation rules can help alleviate some of your distress. Recognize that the more assets you have accumulated during your marriage, the longer the agreement will take to finalize. Avoid litigation, if possible, and choose mediation or collaborative divorce to get through the process with minimal stress.

Getting help from outside sources, such as divorce support groups, is helpful. When members share their experiences, you may discover tips that will work for your situation. Some people also try counseling to help them get through the process. Give yourself time to heal, as many divorced people indicate that it often takes a year or two to feel normal again.