Coming up with a parenting plan for your children isn’t always easy. In fact, many parents find that this is more challenging than any other area of the divorce. When you are going through this, you need to ensure that you are focusing on the children. It is easy to think about how the decisions will affect you, but they might cloud the decisions since they all need to be based on what’s best for the kids.
It might help you to think about the options that you have to resolve a situation before you meet with your ex. This gives you a chance to think about how you feel about each option. You might find that you can give in to your ex’s wishes on some of the decisions. By figuring this out ahead of time, you might be able to use those in your negotiations.
We realize that it is tempting to try to set the child custody order so that it can cover your children until the day they become adults. Unfortunately, this usually won’t work. Remember that as your children mature and their needs change, you can adjust the custody agreement. This can reduce your stress now since you don’t have to try to see into the future.
Being able to handle everything related to your children and prepared for what’s coming can help you feel more at peace and in control. You may realize that this helps you to think more clearly since you aren’t trying to fight to understand options and determine how they will impact you when you are being rushed to make a decision.